When she accused me of being late, I couldn't help but recriminate by pointing out she always forgets appointments.

recriminate 由前缀 re-（表示"回、反"）和 criminate（指控、责备）组成，字面意思是"反过来指控"。这个词特指在被指责时反过来指责对方的行为，即"反责、反控"。